Hi, Wishful!
I'm sorry for everything you've been through. It sounds like it's been quite an ordeal.
I'm not making one bit of excuse for how he has treated you. I will say this, though, as someone sober in AA, and who has seen many, many recovered alcoholics. Three weeks of sobriety is not long enough to effect real change. I'm glad he is going to AA and that he has a sponsor. IF he works the program the way it is intended, he should change dramatically over the next year or two. He should start to see his own responsibility for his actions and attitudes and for the harm he has caused. So there is a ray of hope. Never any guarantees.
But REGARDLESS of what he does or does not do, you need a chance to heal and for you and your kids to have the kind of life you deserve. I hope you will be able to make some more Al-Anon meetings. They really do help.
His quitting drinking is only the beginning of the changes he will have to make. You can make changes of your own that will make your life better.
Hugs, glad you are here.
