I need yall NOW.
AH just sent a letter.
Those not familiar with me. AH went in rehab last July came home September. Relapsed Nov. started using cocaine, staying in hotel after I kicked him out then spent days in countless bars and strip clubs all day long till march. Went back to rehab march 4. Out April 14. Relapsed and overdosed within 8 days. After hospital stay for od he still went out and used the next day. Called me and I delivered him back to rehab. They accepted him, but said it would have to AT LEAST be a 90 day program and we had to pay up front.
He's been in 3 weeks and 4 days. He took me and his mother (everyone) off the hipaa form a week ago because we reported him for making phone calls. He was not supposed to have phone privileges for first 30 days. So they won't tell us anything. His letters make no sense and say the same thing as last rehabs. Plus he's still lying, trying to control and manipulate through his letters. I have not responded to any of it. I send him a very emotionally detached letter updating him on kids and nothing else.
Today's letter says he is processing out next Wednesday!!!????!!! And he wants me to pick him up!? He needs to come home and be with his family, his head is clear, he loves me blah blah blah!!!! And PS. Get me a phone!!!
#1. Heck no! I will not be picking your azz up.
#2. No. You will not come home. I will not put my kids through this. And from now on, I'm not accepting anything I wouldn't want my daughter to accept from her husband.
#3. You used your phone to call strippers, coke dealers etc. heII no, I will not get you a new one. Figure it out!
Forgot to mention AH cant drive because of Multi DUIs. But he's been successful in business and has access to $. His family runs the business right now with limited POA. So again, it will be me living in a car so he can go work out, go to meetings etc. plus I have a very active 17 year old and a 2 year old and my oldest daughter (25) is expecting a baby in July.
We did get march man act papers prepared for this day and they are at the rehab facility, because of total dysfunction and overdose episode. However! The judge has signed them but they will place him in mental hospital for 5 days to be evaluated and then return him to posh Florida rehab condo on sandy white beaches. Only then he can not leave and judge will reevaluate his progress every 30 days. Problem. Rehab doctor doesn't want him placed in mental hospital for the 5 days! I signed them. How can he( the doctor) decide to not use them when this is why we had them done??? And before you start asking: no! My motivation is not to make him get help! Read previous posts. This man is out of control! He's headed to death or prison. I no longer want him to get well for me because I don't even know my roll in his life. But he cannot keep burning through the business money, terrorizing everyone. Period.
Please tell me what's next. What should I do other than not show up to get him or allow him in my home? I need rational advice. His family wants me to threaten rehab since they made us pay up front and even if they aren't aware of his plans next week, with this letter they will be!