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Old 05-23-2013, 05:46 PM
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wicked
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do not give up on yourself!

So here I will sit and keep quiet, I will not bring it up again. I don't know anymore. I can't leave, no one in my family has ever left their spouse and to do so would make me an outcast, and I promised DH if he worked on being sober I would support him 110%. My family adores him.
Please do not allow him to ruin your children. Please.

who says only alcholics hit bottom.
Not me, and I am an alcoholic.
Those of us who have been married to an alcoholic can hit bottom too.
You will miss a chance at self-care (taking a shower) because he thinks he is doing you a favor to watch his own child?

Do the other members of your family who love him so much have to live with him?
Give them a few weeks.

Please read EnglishGarden's post again. And again.
It does not end with him, it will continue to the next generation.
That poopy baby in your lap is the next drunk or married to it.
The statistics sadly bear this out.
I am one of the kids who grew up with a man like your dad.
I still pay today.
I am 54.

Thank god for AA and AlAnon.

Beth

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