Welcome 2offMe
For me it was like mentioned above, that not drinking came first, but for the telling to others, i needed to do that, since all my life i never ever said anything to anyone, and when a came to AA i learned that keeping Things to myself was not good, so i chose to play With open Cards about me beeing an Alcoholic, but no one at all was supprised when i told them, he he.. :-) i need to practise ABSOLUTE HONESTY as my New way of living..I got a sponsor to show me the basic way of living trough the Big Book..Hope you get the answers you are looking for and it Works out for you:-)