You husband sounds like a pretty nice guy - it probably wasn't easy for him to decide to ask you to attend meetings. Are you feeling resentful towards him? Sounds like he cares a lot.
The best way to start recovery is to be in this for YOURSELF. You don't need to be doing this for anyone else's sake. As far as AA goes - yep, you can just go and sit there. It's weird the first time - they spend about 15 minutes reading over these rules, it's how every meeting starts. Sometimes they'll ask if there's anyone new, that's when you can introduce yourself, you just say "Hi I'm Earnest and I'm an alcoholic" or whatever. Then you'll listen to a speaker and then some comments. Then you can leave!
I don't attend AA meetings often, but it helped me gain a foot-hold and gave me some insight in those early days. Maybe you should try it out - then you can bash it all you want!