My stumbling block for a long time was an inability to face up to lifelong sobriety. I think dealing with relapses is a difficult tight-rope. We must never be drawn away from hope into despair, but I equally don't think we should see it as part of recovery (because it is the opposite). My personal experience makes me wary of being happy at drinking less or drinking on fewer days because I learned that was not sustainable for me and it held me back from truly embracing abstinence.
That's just my experience though.