Hi, Suke. Fairly new here myself, glad you found us. As already mentioned, the Family and Friends thread is probably going to be most helpful for you. Here's a link
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Be sure to check out the sticky'd topics at the top of the page also, some really good educational/inspirational material there.
Everyone here understands where you are at, and there is a lot of experience, strength and hope being shared every single day. Hope you find it as helpful as I have.