Hi kpk
The thing that really helped me was I realised I could be who I wanted to be...or I could drink - but I couldn't do both.
I'm guessing you don't really want to be the 'naughty boy' who sneaks a drink the minute your wife's car disappears down the drive...
it's not attractive in kids, and it's certainly not a good look for guys our age...especially if you're minding the kids.
be who you want to be - you'll find a lot of support here
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