Everything in this post has helped me. I just went through a major life transition...moving to a foreign country, starting over work wise and financially, disappointment at a bankruptcy and foreclosure hitting, empty nesting, two daughters who have taken us through the wringer...one an ex crystal meth addict...now functional but hateful...and another an active adult. I recognize myself in the lashing out...and I have been lashing out. I was doing so much better for so many years. I now apologize, but want to throw myself away when I recognize how I acted out. I am glad I am working hard to rewire, but it is really hard and I am really now just trying to be quiet and stable and not to react when hurt or the abandonment feelings hit.