Welcome. It is wonderful that you have the prescenct of mind at souch a young age to see that alcohol isn't your friend. Also, congrats to your boyfriend for joining you! My husband and i were very much like y'all. I drank, he drank and suddenly we're fighting over nonsense! This went on and on for years. As i descended deeper into my alcoholism my husband made the decision to not drink. He decided he didn't like who he became when he drunk. For him, it was as easy as setting the bottle down and walking away. I tried to emulate him many times and failed until i started going to AA. I had 10 months of sobriety but lost it am and back on the wagon again. Keep coming back! You're making a wonderful choice!