I have to say thanks very much to each of you. Never have I received such blind compassion, support, and encouragement without any judgment whatsoever. It is sincerely appreciated! I guess we'll see where the road takes me, I suppose the first step is having The Talk about getting help, and if he's not receptive to that, I pretty much have my answers. I will also poke around the Family and Friends section, great idea!
Thanks again.