Before showing him a picture I had already told my friend that my love interest was a AA member.
My love interest told me how he was before he got sober. He was aggressive and had conflicts with everyone standing in his way.
Like committed2013 said it doesn't mean this is who he is sober.
My mind is made up, I will spend time with him and see how he is.
My friend did harbor some romantic feelings for me but that was a couple of years ago and he's met someone since, she is perfect for him and they're really into each other. My second guess is it's motivated by racism. My friend and I are white, my love interest is a black man. I hate pulling that card out but my friend is not the most open minded man.