dear myfreedom,
I was trying to take it slow with you, because that is how I needed it, I needed time to digest things.
But,
everything that was said above is absolutely true.
Leaving is the worst time for a woman. As Lexie had said.
He hit you once, twice, or whatever, he will keep doing it. It does not have to be like the lifetime movies with the physical abuse. One hit from a man can kill you.
Your children are already seeing this.
My son, had told me recently that his biggest hope was that I had left my ex before he went off to college.
No, absolutely not, do you tell him that you are leaving.
Do not ask him to leave, he will always find a way back in.
Start looking for all documents that you might need, ex. tax returns, bank accounts, mortgage statements, birth certificates, marriage certs
Do you have a trusted friend that can hold these for you. Originals not necessary, photocopy.
Call DV.
Find out about the shelter.
If you cannot afford a lawyer, the shelter may have a pro bono attorney
Do not let him see anything missing
Start your spring cleaning
Yes, have bags or clothing in your car
Don't know where you live in Pa, and really don't want you to put that in here, but I live in the Hazelton area. Don't know if that is close to you.
Just keep remembering that it will not get any better, it only gets worse.