Originally Posted by
DadofOne 
Ido yell a lot and am miserable, I know it. I can't even be intimate with my wife based on this dissection of our morals. She called me a prude!
I feel for you. If not wanting some 42 year-old addict in your home with your daughter makes you a prude, then you're a prude. Of course, most of us know, that there is nothing prudish about that view--it's just normal. IMO, you're wife is looking for a reason to excuse her daughter's behavior. It's a normal reaction, but she's making you out to be the bad guy, when it's her daughter who's in the wrong.