I agree tuffgirl, for a lot men this is true. The confusing part for most woman is that in the early stages of a relationship, men seem capable of having a deep meaningful connection. As the relationship changes, we still want that man back and doing everything in power (nice or not) to try and get him to be "that man" again.
Through counseling, my husband and I learning how to communicate better. Sometimes he is "that guy" and other times he nicely asks me if I could find a girl friend to discuss it with. In the old days, that would not have been ok with me. Today, I can really appreciate and respect his honesty and limitations as he is still in early recovery as well.