My ABF's mother cheated on his father with a relative of his dad's. The marriage dissolved and she married the relative. To make it worse, ABF idolizes his dad.
Since then, my ABF has more or less hated all women and thought they were sluts. To prove it, he became promiscuous himself and slept with over 100 women before we were (back) together when he was actively abusing cocaine. He despises them all, and himself most of all. It was like he was punishing himself. When he told me about it, the shame was almost palatable.
Before I got pregnant the sex life was fine - good, even. He only wants the very basics, nothing.... extraordinary, shall we say. (Sorry if that is TMI, I do have a point.)
The weird part is, I know what sort of porn he likes - he accidentally left the browser window open one day and I got an eyeful. All really gross and degrading toward women - the opposite of how he is with me.
My God.
So I hope things go back to normal after the baby is born... that I don't magically transform into some sainted mother figure that he doesn't want to touch. That worries me a lot, because to me, a lack of intimacy is completely unacceptable.
Yep, red flags everywhere. Like a car lot - all strings of red flags!!!
LOL! If I don't laugh, I will cry...