Originally Posted by
ShootingStar1 
There also are quite a few threads in the Friends and Families section of SoberRecovery. English Garden started a thread with an eloquent post called "What is Abuse?" which became a "stickie" lots of other people posting. I wrote my story of being abused there, too. You can find it at the top of the Friends and Families forum main page which lists all the threads.
I believe you can also search for "abuse" under the SR search function located along the banner at the top of the page.
Many people, especially women, who live with alcoholic/addictive partners suffer abuse as the alcoholic progresses into deeper dysfunction, so you will find a lot of discussion, and feel free to join in. Doesn't matter if you are an alcoholic, family member of an alcoholic, or both. We're all here for support.
ShootingStar1
Thank you ShootingStar! I was the one with alcohol problems, not my abusive ex, but he did get more aggressive when drinking. I am hoping that by talking about it with other people with similar experiences I can begin to process what happened, as I have suppressed most of it and tried to escape the memories by drinking. I think it is an essential part of recovery to deal with this.