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Old 05-10-2013, 07:39 PM
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Dee74
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Hi bucolic

I think learning to live sober is actually the biggest part of recovery.

For a long time I was an alcoholic trying to live sober - I had the same friends, I went to the same places...nothing fit...

Eventually I drank again...

a few more years went by - then I stopped again. This time I became a hermit...I stayed sober but I was unhappy, and unfulfilled.

The key is I think is a middle way - getting sober and finding ways to be happy that way.

Finding friends is hard if you're thinking 'ok...here I am...making friends'...
Remember how it was when you were a kid? you just made friends.

Find things you're interested in - hobbies activities interests - the chances are you'll find people you like and make friends

do you think you might still be in a mental place of between drinks?

seems like you're missing it, and the lifestyle, and the friends - weekends seem like a prison sentence... and you haven't really started on building a new life?

If you can't think of anything else to start off on, I recommend volunteering - it got me out of the house, got me thinking about other peoples problems, and ti got me back into relating to people without alcohol being the focus of attention

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