Hi Dwain,
Welcome to SR.
For me, I had to step back and look at myself like an outsider and re read my first postings like I was reading what someone else said. I replaced my drug of choice...alcohol...with someone else's...one i had no experience with and then said what would I tell a friend who just asked me that question. I came up with my own answer.
Whatever you come up with, you probably already know deep down in your own heart. I know I did. I did know, for me, it probably wasn't going to improve as time went on no matter what I decided.
Everybody deserves better than it's bad or it's not that bad.
I found all the people on SR to be very helpful and understanding. I hope you find what you need too.