For me, the shame release thing has been sort of a grief/awakening process over the years. I'll just be going about my business sometimes, not at a meeting or anything, just daily life situations etc., and I'll realize hey, this thing wasn't my fault, or this or that thing I believed about myself (he's this role, can't do math, sloppy, will never make it in life, unlovable etc.) is a lie. Once I've shown and seen for myself that these situations and many of the beliefs I had about myself are lies,, I breath through it and let it go. It's a process.