My marriage is awesome now.
Mon and Fri are my meeting nites and Tues/Sat are dh's. Thursday is family night (pizza and board games or movie). Sun and Wed are for family or other stuff that comes up. We eat sit-down dinner every night (even w/kids sports) and communicate openly as a family. The kids have a safe, nurturing environment and dh/I still keep recovery front and center (I am GSR of my home group and dh is web rep for the district).
We were in marital and family counseling for about a year in the beginning. The beginning is loaded with recovery stuff, but it is worth it and we settled into a great routine. Making drastic, permanent changes takes a lot of work, but it is well worth it.
We will be married 15 years in August. And it just keeps getting better and better. The solution is in the steps....the solution works if we work it!!