I have had anxiety problems all my life. I have also had depression which I had to get treated before I could recover. So, I have been taking antidepressants for about 13 yrs. They do nothing for my anxiety. I choose to keep it that way.
I manage my anxiety fairly well. I have read a lot of great books with tips and ideas for dealing with anxiety attacks. For example, when you are very anxious your breathing becomes more shallow which worsens the situation. So, simply taking several deep belly breaths will help a lot. I'm glad you're talking to your dr and looking at options.