My ex didn't like the idea that his wife had a substance abuse issue. Going to meetings "labeled" it, before that it was easier to deny.
So...if recovering alcoholic sounds too scary to her...how about non drinker? the world's full of them, and they are totally normal people, not scary or threatening.
your a non drinker who goes to a club where people are hanging out and talking about ways to improve their lives. It's all a matter of perspective I suppose.
If your drinking wasn't a big issue for her, why is not drinking a big issue?
It's sorta funny how people are all supportive if we say we want to lose weight, take a night course or start going to the gym, but say we don't care to drink anymore and they take it as some personal condemnation of their lifestyle!
just thinking out loud, not suggesting you pick a fight with her. When we pass on a piece of chocolate cake people say "I envy your self control" when we turn down a drink they ask what's the matter with us.