Originally Posted by
DMB54 
I've always put other people's needs before my own in a lot of ways and that's really a big part of the overall problem.
Me too! In fact I have always been a people pleaser. Stirring the pot always caused problems and I learned at an early age it was just best to not stir it. It carried on in my work and personal life. I hate confrontation and hate telling people how I really feel.
I commend you for wanting to help your friend, but remember, your sobriety has to come first. I know for me, I lost myself along the way and in order to get myself back, I have to be a little selfish.
I think talking to a therapist is a great idea. I had a counselor and it helped me alot.