Ginger, you summed it up perfectly. The old tapes do play even though they are really old for me and I know they are tapes. My body physically repsonds even when I know it's a tape, my mind say 'yes but, maybe this time it will really happen and then what, you didn't escape, you just sat there and let it happen." But it never does happen.
Reedling I think maybe the reason so few responded is because you posed sort of the holy grail for us ACoA's, how to be normal when our trigger pops up. Those who have progressed that far in their healing are probably not on the site now and some of the others are still struggling with the tapes in control for now. In just a few years I have seen people come and go here pretty quickly.