Hello Time2Focus,
AA may not be your thing and the 'God' dependency may not be your thing, but have you read Steps 1,2 and 3 in the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions book? I like AVRT, but reading those 3 chapters give a good understanding of the 'Spiritual' perspective, and are not domineering in any way. The book is available for online read and download, and I highly recommend the short reads to get an alternate perspective if nothing else.