There;s some great advice here BigAquaGirl.
There will always be reasons and excuses to drink. It;s up to us to find better ways to deal with things.
I think if we want change you need to make changes. I know we've spoken about this before and a lot of things you feel you can't do for support.
Maybe think about what you can do, and are prepared to do in the way of support and changes, and go from there?
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