"Succumbing to hatred is not the choice I want to take."
there isnt any hatred in saying "NO!"
there is accountability on your part,though.
" Once I borrowed my car and next morning woke up hearing it was used for an armed robbery..."
it wouldnt have happend iffen ya said ,"NO!"
"It is only that I begin to understand how other people's motives really are, the people surrounding me"
the motives are on you. why do you let peple use you?
i had to see that the only way people used me was by me letting it happen.
i had to stop being a people pleaser. im not here to please others. if people dont like me sayin no, then its their problem, not mine.
trust is a 2 way street. its not just that others have to earn my trust...i have to earn theirs.
a lot changed when i stopped hangin around the people i was hangin with. i can still throw out trust too quick, but if i want to have serenity, i gotta accept accountbility for it happening and learn from it.
i dont expect people to trust me when they 1st meet me either. when it comes to poeple fresh in recovery, i even tell them not to just trust me. i , like them, have to earn it; earn it through action.
its all about my motives.