Originally Posted by
doggonecarl Welcome to SR.
I believe the first few months of dating is a time to identify areas of compatibility and incompatibility, to determine if one shares interests, values, goals. If one finds a compatible partner, you can, if the feelings are shared, continue the relationship. If you identify that you aren't a match, you stop investing time into the relationship.
No where does it say that after three months you have to sign up to take on a person alcoholism or his recovery from it. That's beyond the scope of early dating.
If you are seeing this now, it will only get worse. Move on while it's early and strike this off as a match that didn't work out.
Thats what I'm thinking hes a really sweet man,probably the best guy Ive ever had.But I cant have the alchol around me.Its just so sad.He said he would stop so we will see ,if that happens.Its better to end or fix the problem now ,if it can be.than later.When people get their feeling hurt.. Thanks