I understand where you're coming from UnixBer. I remember getting sober and being surrounded by people who thought I was more amusing drunk and feeling really angry about certain expectations other people had of me. I realised that a lot of my life was just about doing things for other people. I thought I was being nice and useful, turned out I was just a pushover. It is a difficult balance to strike. I didn't want to be mean but neither do I want one sided relationships. I just try to concentrate on what I need to do for myself and the rest of it falls in to place. You'll soon find out who are the people you want to keep in your life x