Originally Posted by BlueSkies1

The problem with CLINGING to an unhealthy relationship, whether a father, lover, or other, is that we have given them the power of DEFINING who WE ARE.
Do you want your dad to define you forever?
Your exbf?
WHO do you want to define who you are?
Go outside. Sit down, and listen to the birds. It is just you and the world around you. No exbf is there, no father. Just you. Who are you?

That's why we have to let it go. Otherwise, others define us forever.

Take your power of definition of yourself back. How?
Stop letting others rent space in your head for free. Consciously, tell yourself, I will not think about him right now. I will not think about him today.
Eventually...I will not think about him this week. When you catch yourself, change the subject!!! IN YOUR HEAD.
Another way to get the focus back on yourself is to journal. One rule though--no talking about dad or xbf in the journal. Only talk about yourself, things you are interested in, things your learned today, people you met, songs you heard, sights you saw, anything but THEM. It's an exercise in YOU, about you, for you.