P.S. Bluetiger:Why not consider that this website (SR) is your sponsor, at least until things get a little straightened out. One advantage of this would be that if one of us gets a little carried away the others can provide more balance and perspective.
"Sponsors" are human and have human faults. One of them can be getting carried away by a feeling of power or superiority. Maybe treating a person in recovery like a dog on a leash. Early on in the program I encountered a sponsor who kept referring to her sponsees as her "pigeons", repeating this over and over again. This led me to wondering if any of her "pigeons" ended up giving her the "bird". I like to think of a sponsor as a friend, someone to call in a crisis, not as an animal trainer. Maybe eventually you can find yourself a friend who has has some perspective and humility. Until then why not hang around on SR?
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