Are you confused? or are you hurt?
You said " He doesn't care about me and my feelings"
I think you understand quite clearly.
He is an alcoholic, active alcoholics are SELFISH. His addiction MUST come first. That is the easy part to understand. He is doing EXACTLY what addicts do.
You are now forced to deal with how his drinking is effecting your life.
I would stop thinking in terms of what I don't want, and concentrate on what I need to go forward and live a healthy life.
He does not hold the key to your happiness, he never did, YOU DO.
I'm sorry, but at this point, a goldfish floating in a bowl, would be more compassionate than your husband currently is.
When we let go of the expectation, we are not disappointed.