Seriously? What about him is keeping you in this marriage? I don't think I could sit next to him at dinner, much less attend marriage counseling to save a marriage with someone so disgusting.
I apologize if this seems overly judgemental, but Liz, this kind of blindness and resentment-based belief system is toxic and socially unacceptable.
Excuse me, let me dial it back a bit. I'm a little crazy since AH went to rehab AGAIN. Something about it stirred up some dark stuff for me and I don't mean to take it out on you.
I maintain the horror movie analogy, however. What I wouldn't give for you to grab your things and run away from this guy. He sounds like a nightmare.
You only live once.