On the note of wondering what his lessons are:
This is from Courage to Change p. 79 one of the Al Anon daily readers:
"Today I will be vigilant about minding my own business.
I know that when my thoughts begin with 'He should' or "She shouldn't' I am probably in trouble.
I don't have the answers for other people.
I don't make the rules for appropriate behavior, good business conduct, driver courtesy, or common sense.
I don't know what is best for others because I don't know the lessons their Higher Power is offering them.
I only know that if I'm caught up in what they should or should not do, I have lost my humility.
I have also ceased to pay attention to myself.
Nine times out of ten, I am focusing on someone else to avoid looking at something in my own life."