The depths of the denial is just amazing to me, no matter how many times I personally see it or hear about it. Know that I have seen and heard exactly what you are seeing and hearing.
I got caught up with my addicted loved one again, and now I am working my way back to loving detachment. It is getting easier and easier. Don't forget that it is a process for us, just as it is for them. We need to step out of the way and let God hold us, and our addicted loved ones.