Originally Posted by
lizatola 
Then, we had this conversation today:
me: Check out my scratched up legs, those brittlebushes are really brutal out there.(I had been doing some yard work to pull the desert bushes away from my fence line in preparation for adding chicken wire to the fencing).
AH: Well, then, why didn't you just wear pants?
Now, that may seem innocent to most people, but this is normal conversation for him. Instead of validating my feeling (silly as it was) he chose to tell me how I should have done it better.
Although I understand the point you are trying to make - I have to say this above...this is often just how men communicate. Women know how to validate feelings. I think expecting your husband, who seems rather type A already, to validate your feelings is a set up for ongoing resentments. This isn't something the majority of men in our society are innately good at.