Were my intentions good and in my HP's plan for us?
i'd gently suggest you worry about YOUR HP's plans for YOU and you only. we each have our own path....at best the paths of two align for a while...kinda like the interstate - thousands of drivers may USE that same roadway for a time, but they get on and off at different ramps and exits....we may drive beside, behind or in front of others but ultimately we have our OWN destination.
it's hard for me to comprehend two people that live in the same house resorting to emails. but that's just me....
what if....for one week you quit trying to engage in "meaningful" conversation, have no expectations on what he should or should do or say, just do your best to peaceful co-exist. no heavy topics, about as deep as you would get with the clerk ringing up your groceries. just for one week...no emails, no attempts to dissect or find hidden meanings, no reading between the lines....just do your thing, stay in your lane - drive and let drive.