Old 04-13-2013, 09:49 PM
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Something I gleaned from a Byron Katie book a few years ago:

I find that my anger dissipates when I avoid the word "should." For example, society should be different, people should treat me better, etc. At its core, its just arguing with reality. When I argue with reality, I lose every time. Obviously, things should be just as they are. Because they are.

Your anger might be justified, but it's about as useful as your head was for trying to break the floor. You can't just snap your fingers and make it go away, but you can indulge it and make it worse, or just let it go away on its own.

I think expressing, as opposed to venting, anger is very helpful, especially when written down. Sometimes the fallacies are obvious when it's down on paper.
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