HPup,
yeah, anger here, too.
and your questions, same as mine.
after i quit drinking, more and more anger came out, so to speak. no idea what to do with it, nothing to shove it away with anymore
later, i came to see that much of it covers up hurt, which i find tougher to admit to.
hm...still not sure what "to do about it".
seems that really looking at what i need and sitting with that, and trying for assertiveness with that, has helped.
totally agree that a lot is from crappy outside conditions. common so-called "minority" experience. sometimes, joining groups to help fight against or better those conditions can work wonders.