I used to get SO MAD at my AH for not helping me with this kind of stuff. A regular, non-addict husband would probably do it, and do it without (too much
) complaining.
Alas, that's not who we married.
Since my AH has been out of the house, I just do it myself, and I don't get bogged down by the loneliness and disappointment because he isn't helping me/he's complaining/he's ridiculing me.
Sometimes it's nice to just DIY. And if you can't, do what tjp613 said.
(((())))