Old 04-11-2013, 06:52 PM
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soberlicious
 
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Originally Posted by HuskyPup
I think, though, that what happens is that people tell me I shouldn't' be angry, like I have no right to my own feelings, so I should just bottle them up. But that doesn't work.
I am currently holding on to some anger surrounding my ex husband. Should I be angry? Well, my anger is valid, yes, but the situation I am angry about is not one that I can change. So again, should I be angry? No, because the anger is hurting me. I need to let the past go for one reason and one reason only...to decrease my suffering. Progress has been slow in this particular situation, but I keep plugging at it.

So, yes, you have a right to be angry about things that have happened to you, but the truth is...holding on to it only hurts you.
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