I'm incredibly fond of the slogan "What other people think about me is none of my business."
I ran across this
blog early in my recovery, and I occasionally return to it for inspiration.
Sometimes, when we observe the alcoholic and their sometimes "larger than life" ego's, we can understand why the destruction of the ego is considered a good thing. But we Al-anoners, who have sometimes been the subject of abuse, or who have low self esteem...we don't believe that we have an ego problem. Instead of too much ego, we believe we have too little.
But our belief that we're "less than" or unloveable, or underappreciated...those are all products of our ego. I'm not going to claim that I've won this battle, but I know that I've gotten better. Usually, when other people get angry, or snide, or express some other destructive emotion...
it's not about me. My ego wants to make
everything "about me."