For me this felt like i was always on a hammsterwheel.
Then I would make myself even more crazy about the fact that I was on the hammsterwheel again.
Recovery helped. Bringing it up as a topic at a meeting, talking to my therapist about it etc.
For me it was complex and more then one thing that helped (and lead to it). Some of the ingrediants though were codependcy, perfectionism, shame, fear of IMPACT (big one).
Oh yeah one of the ways I know I am worked up about soemthing now....how much I am back on the hammsterwheel about one topic (luckily it is only one). Though not perfect it is progress and now it is an indicator of something I need to bring to my therapist or support for work.