Is this enabling?
I posted in the past about this same subject, I'm still just trying to find some peace in the matter.
My brother, heavy drug user for 10+ years, got "sober" at the end of 2011. I say "sober" because he still drinks, to me sober is stark sober 100% off any intoxicants. Anyway, I learned that my father provides beer to him whenever my brother visits for holidays or what not. I find that very inappropriate and borderline enabling.
To my knowledge (brother lives 8 hours away) he hasnt had any trouble with drinking yet but I still think he is just replacing one intoxicant for another.
I feel like I'm just trying to control everyone but I just want my brother to have the best chance of being truly sober. It is my belief that alcohol drastically increases chances for either A, relapse on drug of choice or B, becomes new drug of choice. I am not alone in that belief because that belief isnt a theory it has been witnessed by the majority of those who have tried it.
Anyway, would you consider my dad an enabler?