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Old 04-05-2013, 05:27 AM
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LexieCat
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I agree with Santa.

She wants a separation? Wow, what a gift. I would take that and RUN with it.

Look, you don't have to decide your entire future this minute, but it seems like a breather might give you room to get some peace in your life from the constant worries. Your kids are grown (and the 18 y/o is old enough to decide whether he/she prefers to stay with you or with mom).

Your staying with her is not going to keep a lid on her behaviors--it hasn't so far, has it? She still thinks she can handle it all. She's got a ways to go before she is ready to really deal with her addictions. Maybe if you are out of the way, no longer propping her up, she will spiral down faster and get to the point where she IS ready. She will spiral down one way or another--but it can be slower and excruciating for you if you have to watch it.

I'd take her up on her offer, if I were you.
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