Dear dancingnow, I k now what you mean by our relatives/close friends growing "tired" of hearing about the same old problem. It is like the alcoholism and the A becom es the whole focus of everything--and people get so tired and annoyed. It is likely, since they don't live with him--he is not the center of THEIR universe--as he is in yours. They may feel "just get over it". I have seen this so many times with the friends and family of abused partners. Finally, everyone gets tired of it and want to back away.
Do you feel obligated to live with him--no matter what?
Just asking......
sincerely, dandylion