Originally Posted by
HopefulmomtoD I think my conscience would feel better if I notified the local police authorities that 1. my wife is an alcoholic and 2. she frequently drives drunk
And this, hayfmr, is all you can do about her driving while intoxicated. It isn't your responsibility to "dry her out". Your kids, I'm sure, are well aware of what is going on, and don't expect you to do this either. I know I certainly don't expect my Father to keep my Mother from being mentally ill. Or force her meds down her throat.
I know it is chaos, but it can be only her chaos if you stand back and let it be that way. Get out of her way. Stop protecting her from her own consequences.That's what enabling is...trying to control someone else's consequences for their own decisions.
Al-Anon, hayfmr. Save your own sanity here. Cause those kids, no matter how old, need at least one functioning parent in their lives.