ViG516,
Your story rings true with me as well. It's amazing how they do the discarding then feel persecuted after. It's the poor pitiful me syndrome....I love you, get away from me. Come back. It's madness. I'm glad you're doing things that are making you happy and finding yourself again. Reading Codependent No More has really been insightful. You're taking all the necessary steps (that's what people tell me). I'm still in a deep pit of depression and longing and obsession.
I too did not get even a birthday card from my fiancé. And both years prior he broke up with me ON my birthday. They are very sick. It's all about them.
Big hugs xx