Away
The longer it's been since I've gotten away from my addict exbf and his failed attempts to "get to me"... I'm just wondering IS THERE SUCH THING as a HAPPY RELATIONSHIP with an active addict?? Ever?? By the sounds of all the stories I've read on here and other websites .. The spouse or partner ALWAYS not 100% in as in feeling as if things aren't right or off and of course the financial burden/lies/cheating that come a long with addiction... I consider myself a relatively healthy person... I'm happy on the inside and grateful every day.. I may not be where I want to be career wise but that's the only true emptiness I feel but I'm only 23 so I'm getting that taken care of!
When I began dating an opiate addict I realized how UNHEALTHY I became which is crazy to me bc I am NOT a clingy person.. I became that bc of his manipulation. He ALWAYS had to be with me except for his "errands" ... I'm not sure where my life turned but 4 months in and I was MISERABLE. I wasn't myself in that SHORT AMT of time?? Shocks me when I look back but thankful that it happened bc now I pay attention to the red flags when I first meet someone..
BUT I'm very curious if there is ANY POSSIBLE way for a healthy relationship w an addict.. I mean it's a stupid question bc out takes TWO to have a purely healthy/undramatic relationship... But I'm still curious anyway!